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·3 days ago

Why I’m Afraid to Let a Man Go Down on Me

Exploring my reservations and desires — Luke slowly took off my shirt and slid my panties over my legs. He kissed my lips and grabbed my breasts with his hands. Slowly, he made his way down, kissing my tits while his other hand would arouse my clitoris. …

Sexuality

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Why I’m Afraid to Let a Man Go Down on Me
Why I’m Afraid to Let a Man Go Down on Me
Sexuality

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Sexography

·6 days ago

I Just Got Back from Brazil — Their Condoms Shocked Me

Tropical fruit salad-inspired condoms… — I recently took a trip to Brazil and fell in love with the island of Florianópolis. The nature is stunning, the quality of life is like nowhere else and men are hot. Today, I want to talk about something that surprised me during my visit — Brazilian condoms! Yes, you…

Culture

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I Just Got Back from Brazil — Their Condoms Shocked Me
I Just Got Back from Brazil — Their Condoms Shocked Me
Culture

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ILLUMINATION

·May 26

Dale Carnegie Ruined This Man’s Career, And We Don't Talk About It

When books are lost in translation — Mr. Kazuo, my manager, called me at his desk. He had a “gift” for me. This was very unusual in Japan, especially in the context of business. He handed me a package, and I could see he had ordered from Amazon. The package wasn’t that big, so I thought it…

This Happened To Me

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Dale Carnegie Ruined This Man’s Career, And We Don't Talk About It
Dale Carnegie Ruined This Man’s Career, And We Don't Talk About It
This Happened To Me

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Better Humans

·May 19

7 Japanese Concepts That Will Change Your Life

#5: Gaman, the stoicism of samurai warriors and the resilience of survivors of natural disasters — For nine years, I lived in Japan, pursuing what I thought was my dream job. I had always been captivated by Japanese culture and learned the language at age 16. Later, I got a master’s degree in Japanese language and civilization. My expectations of the country were heavily influenced by…

Mindfulness

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7 Japanese Concepts That Will Change Your Life
7 Japanese Concepts That Will Change Your Life
Mindfulness

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Sexography

·Apr 24

I Did a ‘Sex Ritual’ in Front of a Stranger to Heal My Vaginismus

Did it work? The answer is… — A long time ago when I was still young and unconscious, a complete stranger offered to hold space for a sex ritual supposed to heal my vaginismus. Vaginismus is the body’s automatic reaction to the fear of vaginal penetration. Living in Japan had left me traumatized by sex and my…

Sexuality

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I Did a ‘Sex Ritual’ in Front of a Stranger to Heal My Vaginismus
I Did a ‘Sex Ritual’ in Front of a Stranger to Heal My Vaginismus
Sexuality

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Better Humans

·Apr 19

Eye Gazing: The Surprising Power of Prolonged Eye Contact, Based On Science

People hardly ever look into each other’s eyes (except maybe during love-making). — Years ago, during my initial introduction to tantra, I recall a specific exercise that left a lasting impression on me. I sat face to face with my partner, John, our hands resting on our laps while gazing into each other’s eyes for an uninterrupted thirty minutes. A lot happens during…

Relationships

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Eye Gazing: The Surprising Power of Prolonged Eye Contact, Based On Science
Eye Gazing: The Surprising Power of Prolonged Eye Contact, Based On Science
Relationships

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Sexography

·Apr 12

The Perfect Partner May Be Right in Front of You and You Don’t Even Know It

Keep an open mind — It’s important to know what you want in a romantic partner. It’s equally important to keep an open mind, not to miss out on potential meaningful relationships. In fact, sometimes the person who’s right in front of you may be the perfect one. …

Relationships

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The Perfect Partner May Be Right in Front of You and You Don’t Even Know It
The Perfect Partner May Be Right in Front of You and You Don’t Even Know It
Relationships

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The Virago

·Apr 5

I Snooped On My Partner’s Phone — Then He Called Off Our Wedding

Curiosity killed the cat — Anxiety can often lead us to do things we regret later on. In my case, there is one experience that still haunts me to this day. I gave in to my anxious impulses and looked through my fiance’s phone to see who he was texting. As I’m sharing this story…

Relationships

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I Snooped On My Partner’s Phone — Then He Called Off Our Wedding
I Snooped On My Partner’s Phone — Then He Called Off Our Wedding
Relationships

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Sexography

·Apr 5

My Tinder Date Turned Wrong and I've Learned Some Important Lessons

Such as having an exit plan! — I naively thought I could meet a boyfriend through Tinder because it has worked for me in the past. Let me reformulate what I’ve just written. My friend Kaitlin naively thought we both could meet a boyfriend on Tinder because it worked for us in the past. Tall, blond and…

This Happened To Me

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My Tinder Date Turned Wrong and I've Learned Some Important Lessons
My Tinder Date Turned Wrong and I've Learned Some Important Lessons
This Happened To Me

5 min read


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Sexography

·Mar 28

My Best Friend Invited Me to a Women’s Only Masturbation Bar In Japan

Fancy cocktails and 350 sex toys to try — I’ve encountered many weird things during my time living in Japan but nothing was weirder than “Shibuya’s Vibe Bar Wild One.” This is not a bar with chill “vibes” as I first thought when I heard the name. “Shibuya’s Vibe Bar Wild One” is actually a sex toy bar that…

Sexuality

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My Best Friend Invited Me to a Women’s Only Masturbation Bar In Japan
My Best Friend Invited Me to a Women’s Only Masturbation Bar In Japan
Sexuality

4 min read

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